So here we are yet another new year. Many people look at this as a “fresh start”. Leave the past behind and start anew. We make resolutions that most of us never keep. Our intentions are good but sometimes it’s just too difficult avoid those delicious donuts or get to the gym every day. Maybe you want to stop smoking and have decided that this is your year, after all the 15th times the charm right? Do you want to change careers or just advance in the one you are in. Maybe you want to write that book or create that app that has been floating around in your imagination forever. Do you resolve to finally take that vacation that you have been putting off since…. always. Is it time to finally clean out those closets and get rid of all of those clothes from the 80’s? I’m pretty sure, and actually hoping, leg warmers and giant shoulder pads aren’t coming back anytime soon. But hold on to that Menudo t-shirt I heard they may be getting back together.
I don’t think it’s necessary to make resolutions. I think doing that is just setting yourself up for failure. That resolution is staring you in the face everyday saying “well, when are you going to get started already?” and then “giving up so soon – you signed up for a year membership to force yourself to go, it’s now been what 5 days (and that was over the last three months). Your resolution is taunting you and daring you to fail – to much pressure I say. Instead set goals for yourself, make reasonable timelines even if it extends into next year.
Your goal is to eat healthier – start small, eat a few baby carrots or cucumbers instead of potato chips. Take the stairs more often, and write that book already. And when it comes to family try these goals:
1. I will do my best to get along with my ex.
2. I will bite my tongue no matter what they say when the kids are present;
3. I will let out my anger away from my kids;
4. I will work with my ex not against them in the best interest of our children;
5. I will not expose my kids to my issues with my ex;
6. I will be the example my kids deserve;
7. I will be happy – maybe not everyday – but as many days as possible;
8. I will move on if I haven’t yet and learn to be happy with myself;
9. I will be a good parent – always
10. I will make this the best year ever.
“Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed.”
Booker T. Washington