The holidays are upon us and for those of you that are living in a divided household you have my sympathy.
The holidays can be difficult for some people even when everything is going fine, but when you add in a broken marriage, kids that are being shuffled back and forth between households and loneliness you have the makings of a very unmerry holiday.
For those of you who are struggling to get through each day just keep this in mind. You literally never know what the future might bring. This time next year will be completely different and hopefully in a good way – a great way. It is all what you make it. We only have so much control over our everyday lives so the things we do have control over we need to make as positive as possible.
When you are in the midst of divorce it’s hard to put on a happy face everyday, but the thing is no one ever said you had to be happy all day every day. Find a few minutes each day to find or make some happiness in your life. Slow down on your way to work and let that jerk who thinks he’s more important than everyone cut in front of you. Buy your co-worker a cup of coffee in the morning or bring them one from the kitchen. Compliment someone. Hold the door open for someone. Watch a stupid sitcom and laugh a little. Eat some chocolate. Go for a walk and listen to some happy music. Offer to help someone with something you wouldn’t normally do. Hug your kids if you have them. Be sure you have some human contact everyday, especially if you work from home and don’t have kids. Since it’s Christmas maybe offer to help wrap gifts at your local church or charity.
A few minutes of positivity everyday goes along way. Before long you won’t even have to think about it and the negativity will be fewer and farther between.
Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa.