relationships

A Change Is Coming

Happy New Year everyone.  This year will be a year of big changes for me.  My youngest daughter will be going to college and I will officially be an empty-nester, I will be selling the home I have lived in for 17 years and I will be releasing my first non-fiction book – Start Here: […]

Christmas

The holidays are just about over and you might be thinking about starting your divorce.  Nobody really wants to be doing this but sometimes it just has to be done. To that end on my website I have a handy checklist to get you started.  In the next few weeks I will be releasing my […]

Untethering

I have worked in family law for twenty years, I thought I was so smart and knew everything. I was sure I had my own marriage handled and I would never become a statistic, until I did. I separated from my husband thinking that we just needed some time apart and that he would eventually […]

Wasted Time

My ex lives in another state.  He rarely gets down here to see his kids even though he is only six hours away.  When he does come down the kids are usually a side note, and most of the time he is in no condition to spend any meaningful time with them anyway.  You see […]

Things I Learned After My Divorce

That I Don’t Need a Man I always thought for me to be happy and whole I needed a man in my life.  For the most part up until my divorce I always had a boyfriend, most of them long term, and then my husband.  I really didn’t think I could be alone.  When the […]

9 Things To Get You Organized Before You File

Ensure you know where all financial accounts are and that you have access to them. If you are unsure about this you can download your credit report through Experian, Equifax or TransUnion.  All open and closed accounts will be listed with most recent balances. Take inventory of your possessions Take a quick inventory of your […]

Top 5 Things I Don’t Regret About My Marriage

ThThWhile some of us would look back at our marriages with regret, spite and bitterness, there are usually some good things that come out of it as well.  Of course if you had children that may be something that you do not regret, although you may be having a difficult co-parenting relationship and wish you […]

9 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Was Married

9 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Was Married

  1. That it Could End. Maybe I would have worked harder to keep it together if I knew that this was a possibility.  No one goes into their marriage thinking that it will end someday, we all want the fairytale ending but we’re not always willing to work for it.  We forget to feed, […]

Men Need Chocolate Too

As women, girlfriends, wives, mothers, I think we love our independence and being able to say “I can take care of myself – I’ve got this” and really mean it.  But deep down we also really like being taken care of too.  We want to know that someone has our back, if we need the […]

The Top Ten Things You Need to Think About Before Filing for Divorce

1. Have We Done Everything Possible to Save our Marriage? Have we gone to counseling, have we actually talked to each other about our issues,           have we tried to rekindle our lost romance? Have we tried to hit the reset button?             Have we explored […]